Why are you judging me?
Generally, unless it’s work related, when I don’t like someone, I just cut them out of my life. Sounds simple, and it should be. Unless for some reason you -have- to always be around them for some reason.
I don’t -hate- people instantly off the bat if there is no good reason. But I do hate them if they directly / indirectly continue to criticise my choice of life style despite me telling them that I don’t approve. What do they say? They say:
People who don’t move out of their parents home right after schooling are not independent
Yes, they say this right to my face, yay for tact? Firstly, I wasn’t aware people get awards for moving out at 18. I also didn’t realise me choosing to stay with my parents because (omg) I love them and enjoy their company somehow made your life worse. Whether I move out at 18, 25 or even 40 makes no difference to anyone but me. Learning to cook, clean and “live independently” is not a special skill, anyone can learn it at any point in their life. I say “independent” because I believe this to be a state of mind, but that’s just me.
That and having your parents pay for you holidays and/or rent is not exactly “independent” so please step down and stop being a hypocrite.
Make snide comments about me being financially better off
Well, let’s see. I studied hard at school, got into a good degree at University, and omgosh! Somehow landed a job with good pay. And I also come from a financially supportive family. Please tell me again how this is any of your business or effects you negatively in anyway? Right it doesn’t… please take your jealous tendencies out on someone who gives a damn.
I’m shallow for loving makeup
Right, and you’re not shallow at all for making this judgemental call? I rest my case 
Frankly, it sucks that time that could be spent on things I love doing, or being around people who love and accept me for me has to instead go into spending time with people who think like this. I know I am not a long, I have a bucket load of friends in this situation.
The only benefit that comes from being in this situation is that it makes you even more understanding and accepting of people with very different life choices. You have to be to accept that there are just some people out there who are not happy with their lives and hence need to justify their own choices to themselves by criticising people who didn’t follow the same path. These people exist, and I need to accept them.
November 14th, 2010 at 5:44 am
I get those snide comments about financial wellness, too. We’re both software engineers and the comments mostly come from his family members that aren’t as fortunate for whatever reason. Jealousy? It bothers me even though it shouldn’t. Stuff like “They live in the rich part of [neighbourhood]” (an average apartment building?), “Matt and Stephanie have money so they can do [whatever]“, “You know Matt and Stephanie’s present will be good because they’re rich” … People!!
November 14th, 2010 at 7:51 am
Thank you, I can’t stand these sort of people -_-; There is already so much jealousy in the world
November 14th, 2010 at 9:52 am
The “independence” thing is .. I think, a very Western way of thinking? At least, I feel like it’s completely normal to live with your family until whenever.. even as a married couple, living with your family isn’t really that strange. When I lived in Australia with my parents I had my own source of income and used that to pay for my own internet, clothes, personal items, and of course I paid my share of groceries and utilities. Mum often joked I was more like a house-mate than a daughter
November 14th, 2010 at 10:01 am
It is a very western thing I think, but judging a person’s way of life thanks to their culture is more a jerky thing than a “culture” thing XD; I’d bet you are an awesome house-mate XD
November 14th, 2010 at 7:02 pm
Oh wow, how rude!!!
There are so many people like that in the world. I wish I knew what to say, but I think you have a good attitude about it. Ooooh tho, makes me grumpy!
November 14th, 2010 at 7:23 pm
Thanks, I have at least my own wonderful friends and family who support me and help me see straight!